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Choices

by Vikki Anderson

 

Making choices and decisions is what our

time upon this Earth is all about.

What school or profession.

To get married or not.

To have or not have children…

 

Our choices in life is what

our time on this Earth will reveal

to you in your next life

Were we wise?

Did we have good judgment?

Did we bring happiness and love to others?

Were we caring enough to forego

our own needs for that of a loved one

or stranger?

 

Choices make us who we are today-

Who we were several hundred years ago

and what we will become centuries from now.

 

Choose your choices well

For you will live with them

For all eternity.


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Death of a Beloved Brother

by Vikki Anderson

I never realized that my brother would die before me.  I am 65 and he was 63.  His death came unexpectedly as I was in the hospital having my hip replaced.  I could not be with him as was his wife, girls and our sister.  I couldn’t get into a car or be moved so I was stuck in trauma at a hospital in Pennsylvania while he was dying in New Jersey.

Our father had died three days after Christmas 2016 from dementia and pneumonia.  He was 92 and it was expected, so although his five year life living with me was at an end, it was sad but not devastating.  We had pre-arranged his cremation so everything was taken care of except when to have the Celebration of Life luncheon with 50 family members and friends.  My brother, Sam, and I thought it would be nice to have it in the spring after I had healed from my upcoming hip operation on January 23, 2017.  My younger sister was upset and wanted it sooner, so she wore us down and I rode the two hours to New Jersey for his luncheon even though it had been less than a week since my operation and not recommended by my health care professionals.

I decided not to speak.  What could I say that he wasn’t my father any more?  He was talking nonsense and would sleep in his arm chair because he saw his grandchildren sleeping in his bed.  He saw my daughter looking into his window from the outside at 3 AM and then saw his father and his wife.  He started talking incoherently and didn’t really understand what I was saying to him.  I didn’t want to talk about his going down hill but it seemed that was all I remembered.

My siblings spoke and with their kind words and all the nice pictures we had of dad and mom (who passed five years ago), it was certainly a great tribute to the man who never said he loved us, but did things instead for us to show his love.

My brother thanked everyone for coming to the celebration of dad’s life and then thanked my best friend Linda for all the time she spent with me in my new rented house in Pennsylvania taking care of dad and using all of her nursing expertise.  She was a God-send and finally told us when we had to bring dad to the hospital which was the beginning of the end.  Five days in the hospital and five days in hospice and he was gone.

Sam also honored me for volunteering to take dad to live with me when mom died.  He thanked me for all the doctor appointments, going out to lunch and dinner to get him out of the house, and for cooking for him even though I did not enjoy cooking any more.  He said I had put my life on hold for 5 years taking care of my father, especially the last few months.  It was so nice of him to thank me for an obligation that I thought I had to take.

Sam went around thanking everyone for coming and was the same friendly, knowledgeable and compassionate person he had always been.  It turned out to be a perfect day and Sam and I were glad that our sister Rose talked us into having the luncheon before I went in for surgery.

Our lives are getting back to normal as much as you can when there is a death in the family.

 

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Obituary

Sam Ciervo, better known as “Mr. Ciervo,” died unexpectedly on January 25, 2017 at the age of 63.

A pillar of his community, he was a passionate, respected English teacher for 25 years at his alma mater, Pompton Lakes High School (PLHS). He taught legions of students the difference between “good” and “well,” and inspired many to become teachers. While his deep humility meant downplaying his own accomplishments, he earned many accolades including Teacher of the Year (twice, a rarity) and Coach of the Year by His Peers from the N.J.I.F.A. Most important to him was the respect he earned from students, parents, colleagues, coaches and peers.

He is survived by his wife of 32 years, Joanne, his beloved daughters, Clare and Emily, his sisters, Vikki and Rose, his nieces, Cailin and Keri, and his loving extended family and circle of friends. These people experienced his greatest gift: unrelenting devotion to his loved ones. Always present and helping, often before he was asked, he was a companion by the bedside in hospitals, an on-call family repair man, a supporter at every event for his children, and a daily presence in his parents’ lives. We will never know a man more devoted to his family than Sam, Dad, Mr. Ciervo.

Friends are invited to visit with the family on Sunday, January 29 from 2-5 PM at Vander May Wayne Colonial Funeral Home, Wayne. A service will begin at 5 PM including eulogies and a joyful celebration of Sam’s life.

As a tribute to Sam’s legacy, his family intends to create a memory book. They would like to include your stories and fond memories. “Mr. Ciervo” certainly touched many lives as a teacher, a coach, and a friend, and you are all encouraged to write down your special story and bring it with you to the funeral home on Sunday where they will be collected and given to the family. If you are unable to attend on Sunday but would like to share a memory please feel free to email them to info@vandermay.com and include in the subject line: Memories of Sam Ciervo.

In lieu of flowers, donations would be appreciated to the “Sam Ciervo Memorial Scholarship Fund,” care of PLHS, 44 Lakeside Ave., Pompton Lakes, NJ 07442.

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Ancient Paths, Modern Choices

I have been teaching and conducting workshops for five decades in both astrology and tarot, I have several books and many articles out on these subjects. I am always asked the same questions. What’s better, tarot or astrology? Is there a difference? Is one better than the other? Is one more accurate? The answer is that it all depends on what type of guidance they are seeking.

Let’s start with astrology since I have been reading charts since I was fourteen years old and am now sixty-three. Astrology has been my life. The natal chart is almost like a doctor’s file on a patient. Everything that is positive or negative is in it. It contains many different aspects of one’s personality, how well or poorly you react to emotional situations or crisis, your intellectual abilities, why relationships succeed or fail and generally if you are the kind of person that others want to know or have as a friend. The houses of the chart tell different areas of life that are affected, for instance, the first house represents the personality you show to the world or the one you want to show to the world and not necessarily the true one; the second represents your money or material values while the third represents communication, short trips, siblings, etc. Twelve distinct areas of life are covered. Depending upon which planets are in that house, what sign(s) are in the house and what aspects hit that house, the personality is formed. Throughout the years with the planets moving forward (or progressing) from your birth chart (which was a map of the sky at the time of your birth), one’s personality, likes, dislikes, intelligence, relationships and reactions to situations change. Adding in solstice points and solar eclipses which usually occur twice a year (lunar eclipses are best used for Cancerians or Cancerian Ascendant natives), the next six months can be forecasted. Many different possibilities are touched upon as the planets and aspects represent a vast variety of probabilities. One must remember, however, that we choose our own future. We make a million decisions throughout our lifetimes that change our future day by day. Planets and aspects can stand for many different alternatives. When the sun and moon on an “eclipse” day falls into a particular house, that house is activated and an astrologer knows what would be in store for the native throughout the next six months. I usually tell my students that whatever happens on an “eclipse” day will represent the next six months of your life. For example, I recommend spending money on the eclipse so you will have money to spend for six months; be with friends and family you wish to see throughout the next six months; go to work as students who thought they would take it easy the next six months, did exactly that. They lost their jobs since they weren’t working on the eclipse! Think. Complete lists of projects, affirmations or goals. Plan for the next six months. I usually find it helpful to get things in order before an eclipse and then read the list in a positive manner on the eclipse so that the universe will set the stage for your next six months in a very logical and organized manner.

In order to make a competent prediction, an astrologer would know the meanings of the houses, planets and aspects affecting the “eclipse” planets and how they aspect the natal and progressed planets. Simplified, if one has more positive aspects such as sextiles or trines, life within the next six months will be more calm, relaxed, focused, organized and fulfilling without many obstacles. The more squares and oppositions the updated chart has, the more challenges and obstacles might be before the person you are reading. But whether the outcome is a positive or negative one, truly depends on the overall outlook. Obstacles or challenges may be for the native to learn some particular lesson or start handling responsibility, etc.

So in essence, astrology gives you a road map to your life year by year. Once given a road map, one can decide to get to any destination in many ways, by plane, train, bus, car, motorcycle or boat. There are also different roads to a destination, the super highways of life, the interstates, the local roads or back country dirt roads. All lead to a certain destination, however, the path is altered by the mode of transportation and the route one chooses. Remember as in any modality, you have complete control over your life and destiny.

Tarot is basically a different method or concept of predicting the future. First of all, the cards explain what will happen if you do nothing to change the situation. If there was something perceived to be negative by the Querent (person for whom you are doing the reading), it will stay negative unless that person takes a positive action to change the event or circumstances. You are always given options and choices.

One can do various spreads to predict what will happen in a day, week, month, year or particular time period in the future. Most of the spreads can pin point an exact month by month prediction in addition to an overall view of the current situation and how one will handle those situations. Tarot can let you know particular occurrences, obstacles or love with a glance of the cards; it can give you definitive yes or no answers to exact questions as well. The remaining cards in the yes/no spread will also shed more insight into your current situation. Remember that we can change anything we don’t like in the cards if we know what message the card is giving us. Whether we take that information to use to our benefit is our choice.

By using the tarot, one can get an immediate answer to a question and insight into a situation or circumstance and know what to do to change that situation to their benefit. Tarot shows you when to balance your love life, money, career or. It foretells what you must do to correct these areas of life. It often gives us not only the mundane solutions to life, but tells us of the spiritual path we must also follow to be happy in this lifetime.

Tarot suggests blessings from God after going through changes; it tells when one must rest so that the Querent could be protected from an illness or concern with the proper rest and care of himself or herself. Tarot helps build character because it gives the Querent something to fight with. It paves the way for an adaptive attitude towards conflicts, obstacles and concerns. Tarot uses a variety of scenery, backgrounds, figures, and colors to portray each card’s meaning. Sometimes adding one’s knowledge about numerology helps give added meanings to the cards although one can get a feel for the cards just by looking at it. This cannot be done in astrology. If the person has no practical knowledge of the planets, houses and aspects, an astrological interpretation cannot be properly done. It would look like Egyptian to the person — without meaning.

Tarot can also prepare one for issues that need balance in order to be happy or fulfilled – it could represent balance in a relationship (is one partner too dominant and the other too submissive?), money (spending too much and not saving enough?), career (is it really necessary to work 12 hour days? What about time with the family?), and conflicts (can I ride these conflicts out? Should I settle them peacefully? Can I handle what is ahead of me? Is there an end in sight?). Just by adding some common sense and a time frame, one can look into the future and know what must be done to correct any negative situation.

Astrology charts, although very automated now and can be called up on a computer and printed in a few minutes, are extremely difficult to interpret properly. Massive reports can be generated with all types of probabilities for the next year. The reports are so long (usually 50+ pages) because there are so many variables. If you make a decision today or now, you change the future from a few moments ago.

Tarot usually takes anywhere from one hour to an hour and a half to read properly. Astrology can take long hours to decipher and then read to the native. Reference for planet configurations (some use asteroids as well) must be used and placed in the chart and then one must go through each planet of the natal chart, progressed chart and how it affects the natal chart. Many combinations can actually make other configurations of planets better or worse by being in aspect with several planets at the same time. You can guide through astrology and then you have to wait to see if the future comes true. With tarot, you are taking an active role in your future by knowing what will come up and how to alter the outcome for the most positive result for the good of all involved.

I feel tarot is more like psychology. It highlights the problem or concern indicated by the number of cards in a particular suit, and gives you many alternatives to deal with it. Each card also has an answer in it.

Although I love both astrology and tarot, I would imagine it depends on the type of information you are looking for. If you want a very philosophical view of yourself, your character, moods, emotional status, likes, dislikes and the general road map to your life with the next year, then astrological charts are for you. Remember that one does not need to have a chart done more than twice a year. I usually place both eclipses in a chart for a year’s reading, so that my clients need only return once a year for the upcoming year’s events.

Tarot is a useful guidance tool since it can give you the areas of your life causing concern, gives answers to deal with anything from the four suits indicating the problem or challenge.

Remember that we have total and complete control over our lives and the decisions we make. No one can make those choices for us. Tarot is an easier and gives more practical answers to the year ahead; astrology gives us an overview of what is to come and makes us think of all the possibilities and consequences ourselves.

Both are fun, both are guidance tools and both can be very dangerous if used for negative purposes. Never go to a reader who says there is a curse on you; there are no curses, only fear that overtakes us and makes us vulnerable. You do not need to go for readings more than twice a year although once a year is also very accurate and lighting candles and prayers by a reader will not help rid you or your family of the curse usually for a large sum of money. Get references of a tarot reader or astrologer from a reputable new age shop or ask friends or family who they consider to be a reputable reader. Is the price fair? Are they trying to use scare tactics? Are they reading with insight, helpful suggestions and giving positive guidance. No one can or should light a candle for you. Some readers charge ridiculous amounts to burn a candle for you, if they are doing it at all. Spend $1 and light one for yourself in a church! Also, never give any readers large sums of money in cash! I had a client who gave $20,000 to one of these readers in a very vulnerable and depressed state, and then she asked for her deceased husband’s jewelry to also take the curse off of that too. However, the woman was wearing my clients jewelry when she went for another reading. For the $20,000, she got 7 readings and a future with no money and a lost sense of pride and a desperate feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. It seems to be my crusade to steer people in the right direction when it comes to reputable readers. It is not acceptable to have a few greedy and unscrupulous charlatans ruin the path for the rest of us.

Whether you read tarot or astrology, keep your message clear, optimistic and focused. Anyone can change the future. We have the right to mold and shape our own destiny as God intended. Take your future and mold it into something you would be proud of.

Some think astrology is all right to have done while attending a tarot reading is the work of the devil. People — these are useful guidance tools that God gave his people here on earth so we could guide others who have temporarily lost their way or needed some insight into the future. There is no witchcraft involved in these predictive modalities. They are subjects, which are studied and practiced like anything else to become good at it.

Give them a chance, and I believe they will surprise you with their accuracy, their insight and the level of philosophical awareness that is given you.

Also, it is much easier to predict time periods with tarot than it would be in astrology. In tarot, the suits represent different months, signs or time periods. In astrology, one must rely on their intuition (and some help from the progressed moon) to predict when something will happen.

Copyright 2001-2021 by Vikki Anderson and http://www.vikkianderson.net.  Do not reprint or copy without using author’s name or web site url.


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Living in Fantasy Land

The issue with doing my spiritual work is that you try very hard to help those in need.  The people who won’t face reality, who live in a world of their own and who get so angry when you try to bring them back to reality, that it is scary.  Some of them need anger management classes and others just need reliable therapy.

This happened to me so I thought I’d share my experience.  I had a lovely tarot student who is my daughter’s age of 26.  She was very pretty, had a great personality (although very shy, no confidence nor self esteem) and was extremely overweight for her age.  She is in love with, let’s call him Micheal.  Michael sounds like a good guy although a Virgo (pardon me, everyone, but I do have some issues with Virgos!  LOL) and she’s a Libran.  Librans are the suckers of the zodiac.  They hate confrontation, but when you put their backs up against the wall, they are the sign of open warfare — thus, I did get her wrath when I was trying to let her see reality in this relationship.

Sometimes, a reader gets close to a client, like I did with this one because she was so helpless and clueless about life.  My daughter is extremely the opposite, so I thought that maybe I could help her come back to live in the third dimensional world that we were all born into; however, it back fired on me.

Here, let’s call her Jane, loves this man Michael.  They’ve been going out for two years and he hasn’t proposed, hasn’t suggested moving in together or any other type of commitment.  She had been a regular tarot client and then a tarot student.  She was not that adept to tarot, but she was coming along slowly but surely — her insecurity and lack of belief in herself made her doubt her readings.  Jane had two more lessons to go to be certified as a beginner in the Totally Tarot Method.

Jane went on a cruise with Michael and she said they had a great time.  I was so happy for her.  She had hoped that he was going to propose on the cruise, but he did not.  In fact, he always uses work as an excuse and is not around as much as a boyfriend, especially one in a committed relationship, should be.  He also was looking for a two family house (coincidentally, he cannot find one that satisfies him…hmmm) for them to live in someday with his mother living up or downstairs.   Sounds like a great future already, doesn’t it?

So, I emailed her and asked how the cruise was and if she was engaged.  I knew she wasn’t or she would have emailed me, but there was always hope.  (PS:  I did a tarot card spread and know he will not marry her, but that’s another story).  She had also told me that she would like his children whether or not they were married and I tried to tell her that even though she had children with this man, it did not mean that they would be together forever.  I wanted her to think logically, something this woman seems to have a problem with.

Then Jane told me she was having nightmares because of the tarot and I suggested that if she were (which is most unlikely) that she should look at the cards or symbols coming out in her dreams as they might be a message for her to use or act upon.  I told her that I thought it was all subconscious stuff that was finally surfacing about the lack of commitment in her relationship and the chaos it caused, but my words were not heard.  She heard what she wanted to hear…fantasy, illusion and delusion.  Anyway, I also informed her that I would be moving in with my boyfriend in October after knowing each other for 8 months and she went ballistic on me.  Could it be that she realized that being with this loser for 2 years without a commitment was a reality gone wrong?  Perhaps.

She told me to mind my own business and to never contact her again.  She told me that I was manipulative and that Michael and she were happy and fine and he was committed to her.  I wrote her back that I just wanted her to live in reality and that I wished her well for her future.

Reactions like these are common in people who need lots of psychological help in dealing with reality.  I thought I was kind enough throughout our many weeks of individual classes together to give her clues about her ill fated relationship and to make her understand that she should not wait forever for this man.  I know, she will wait 50 years for him even though he brings nothing to her life.

She is in therapy and I hope it continues.  I feel sorry to say that I felt like I lost a daughter, but in reality, I have only one daughter and I love her very much.  I try very hard not to get involved in my clients or students’ lives, but sometimes you just feel that you are needed and you do what you can to help.  Sometimes, like this particular instance, it backfires.

Unfortunately for both of us – we have gone our separate ways and I sometimes wonder if I should have just left her living in a reality where everything is sunshine and roses and where negativity doesn’t exist.  For some people, this is where they spend a lot of their time rather than dealing with life as it happens and coping with decisions and consequences about their own futures.

To Jane, I say, I wish you the best and hope that you do marry Michael one day.  I hope it is also in a time frame when you can have the children you desire so much.

Copyright 2009-2020 by Vikki Anderson and http://www.vikkianderson.net.  No part of this article can be used without mentioning the author’s name or website.


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Spiritual Teachers

I had a most disturbing phone call today from a 39 year old man who asked about my astrology classes. He didn’t drive and wondered how he could learn from me.  I suggested teaching him via the phone or email and would send him the class material before our lesson. I have many international and out-of-state clients and students so it seemed normal to me.

He talked about how true spiritual teachers allow their students to pay them after a class IF they thought the information was worth it.  Yes, you read correctly.

This has always been a big problem in the spiritual field but I had thought that we had evolved and know that we are working as hard (if not harder) than anyone with a 9-5 job.  Spiritual teachers should be paid reciprocal energy, such as money, for their services, so I said, “Good luck with that,” and he responded, “Well, if that’s how you feel about it,” and we both hung up.

He called back and left a voice mail saying that I should get another job because I wasn’t a real teacher if I charged for lessons.  I was temped to call him back to find out if he truly were from Mars or if he were just mentally challenged. If I had called back, I would have asked if he did his job for free.

Yes, teaching, lecturing and writing about metaphysics is my actual job and has been since 1999 when my corporate job ended. My accountant continuously told me that I’d better start charging normal consulting fees for my services or I wouldn’t qualify as a corporation any longer.  So I finally took her advice.

The belief that spiritual teachers should not charge for their services is a very old and tired argument.  It is not practical in our third dimensional world to do anything for free with our financial obligations and responsibilities. How are we supposed to pay our bills?  Barter sometimes works, but when the bills arrive, it’s hard to offer our creditor an astrology chart or a massage for a mortgage payment, isn’t it?  But they always take money!

To this man I say, you are clueless about spirituality and have much to learn.  Knowledge is never free and as my dear grandmother used to say, “You get what you pay for.” Or as my college professor used to say, “If you give anything away for free, it is worthless.” Help can this information be given for free (as I had done for decades with readings and lectures around the world and on cruises) but on my terms and not others.

If a person is meant to be my client or student, then they are guided to me.  If they are not meant to be — like this man who lives in a parallel universe where everything is free and they only pay IF they feel the information or service was worth it, so be it.

I thank God and my angels for protecting me yet again against psychic vampires who think they have special rights to zap everyone else’s energy while protecting their own.

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Contacting Your Angel

Let’s talk about contacting your angel.  Everyone I have dealt with lately has been asking me.  I have been in contact with my personal angel since I was fourteen years old when he started talking to me. Of course, way back then, you just didn’t go around telling people that you have conversations with your angel and even though I was a young teen, I got it. You keep this information to yourself and let it be known when the time is right.

In metaphysics it is believed that we are all born with three personal guardian angels and three spirits guides that are here to help each one of us. But the “law of non-interference” states that they cannot interfere with our free will and choices unless we specifically ask for assistance. I tell my students it is like having a butler, maid, cook and chauffeur on staff and they sit at the kitchen table drinking coffee waiting for you to tell them what to do. They are there, but not doing their jobs!

Angels wait to assist us and I think they must have an extreme amount of patience not to interfere when they know we are making a mistake or not taking an important opportunity for our best interest – but that’s what they do.

So, it is important to deal with them every day. I personally ask to be brought opportunities and people into my life who would be in my best interest, and so far it has worked out well. Yes, I’ve made mistakes along the way because I didn’t think the opportunities were right for me and I’ve been disappointed some time later to see that “they” were right and that my judgment was colored with emotional responses and bias.

The first thought that comes to your mind about anything (after asking assistance from them) is always the right thing to do. You have free will so you can do whatever you feel is appropriate for you; however, give the answer that comes to your mind first a second thought and reflect upon it. What would be the ramifications of taking that path? Would it be in your best interest? Would it be a risk worth taking? Think of these things before making a decision.

You may also ask the name of your angel if you go into meditation — or you can get ready for bed and once your head is on the pillow, close your eyes and ask (out loud or silently) that you would like to know the name(s) of your personal angels. The names will come into your mind. Don’t be discouraged if it takes several tries – sometimes, we just don’t believe the names that come into our minds and we dismiss them. Hear them and know that they are your angels’ names.

Ask for assistance in being safe while driving/traveling to your destination. Ask that the police don’t see your speeding by; ask that your family and you are healthy and safe and that you will always make the best decisions for all involved. Your angels can help you with whatever you can imagine.

You have all the power of the universe on your side, it would be a real shame if you didn’t use it.

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